What is a superiority complex?

Do you know someone who’s constantly competing for attention or quick to compare themself to others? While it’s important to advocate for yourself, a superiority complex is different from having self-confidence. A person with a superiority complex may act like they’re better than other people. They’ll exaggerate their abilities while belittling other people’s accomplishments. 

For some people, this sense of self-importance is a defense mechanism for their insecurities. They may act smug or condescending as a way to mask feelings of shame, inadequacy, and low self-esteem. In many cases, they may not even be aware of how their actions come across to others. 

Unsurprisingly, having a superiority complex can complicate your relationships with other people. And over time, it can impact your career, mental well-being, and way of interacting with the world. 

Seven signs of a superiority complex

People with superiority complexes often have inflated opinions of themselves, claiming they’re smarter, better, or more capable. Other common signs of a superiority complex include:

• High self-confidence
• Sense of superiority over others 
• Overstated claims you can’t support 
• Overcompensation for specific aspects of life
• A strong emphasis on appearance 
• Unwilling or unable to pay attention to other people
• Mood swings

Is feeling superior a bad thing?

There’s nothing wrong with a healthy dose of self-confidence, but superiority complexes are more complicated. A person may act confident on the outside, but feelings of insecurity and inferiority may be driving their behavior. And eventually, this dynamic can lead to anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues. 

A superiority complex can also hinder your personal development. Many people with a superiority complex may struggle with vulnerability, seeing it as a weakness instead of an opportunity for self-growth. And because they think they already know everything, they may be less likely to explore new hobbies or seek advancement opportunities at work.

Having a superiority complex can make it harder to maintain meaningful relationships with others, too. People with superiority complexes tend to be critical and dismissive of others. Instead of showing empathy when someone is struggling, they may be impatient or shift the focus to their own abilities. They may also refuse to take responsibility for their mistakes, even if it means harming a relationship. 

What’s the root cause of a superiority complex?

Austrian psychologist Alfred Adler first defined the concept of a superiority complex. According to Adler, people may develop a superiority complex to mask their vulnerabilities and feel more significant.

Childhood upbringing 

Our childhood experiences play an important role in who we are as adults. Someone who grows up with abuse, neglect, or limited family support may be more likely to develop a superiority complex as a way to cope with feelings of inferiority and low self-esteem. Conversely, people who grow up with excessive praise or pampering can also develop a superiority complex based on a sense of entitlement.

Mental health concerns

Although a superiority complex isn’t a diagnosable mental health condition, it may share traits with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Similar to narcissism, people with a superior complex may have a grandiose sense of self-importance and limited emotional empathy. One difference between the two is that a person with NPD wants constant attention and praise, while people with a superiority complex don’t always care about what other people think, focusing instead on maintaining their self-image.

What to do about your superiority complex

If your superiority complex is starting to affect your well-being, consider seeking professional mental health support. Therapy can show you how to recognize and change unhelpful thought patterns and beliefs, as well as cope with distressing emotions in a healthier way. 

In addition to therapy, there are several strategies that can help people improve their self-esteem, interpersonal relationships, and emotional health. 

• Practice self-compassion. Being kind to yourself can increase inner strength and resiliency while helping you to accept failure as a chance to learn and grow. One easy exercise is to recite a positive affirmation each morning, like “I am capable and learning each day.”
• Be honest. Focus on acknowledging your genuine strengths and areas of growth. For instance, instead of exaggerating accomplishments, try sharing a personal experience where you overcame a challenge. This approach not only fosters self-acceptance but can also create meaningful connections with others. 
• Focus on growth. Part of honesty is acknowledging where you have room to grow. Instead of seeing your limitations as a weakness, use them as a chance to set realistic goals to help you become the person you want to be. For example, if you struggle with public speaking, consider joining a local group or taking a workshop to build confidence.

Find care with Rula

​​People start therapy for all different reasons. Sometimes it’s to manage a specific mental health condition, but often it’s to learn how to better understand their behaviors, build healthier habits, and focus on personal growth. 

If you or someone you know is showing signs of a superiority complex, consider working with a therapist. Rula’s therapist-matching program makes it easier to find a mental health provider who’s the right fit for your specific needs, in network with your insurance, and taking new clients. With Rula, you can have access to personalized, collaborative care as soon as tomorrow.

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